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Your pain can be your greatest motivator!  Learn how to use it to change you into the person you've always wanted to be. I've had a lot of pain in my life and in 1999 it was so great that I had to change. I stopped fighting my pain and I let it transform me. Today my life is better than I ever dreamed it could be. Through my story I'll teach you how to use your pain to transform you, too!

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I hope you are enjoying the first chapter of Pain Drives Change. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help! Damon

You Will Learn How To:

  • Find hope in the midst of hopelessness-Damon is incredibly transparent with his personal experiences, the kind that leaves the reader wondering, ‘Is there any hope for this situation?’ Hope—that is exactly what this book is all about, hope for the hopeless.
  • End the generational curses in your family-Damon outlines the path he took and shares how you, too, can take a similar path
  • Embrace your pain to produce your greatest victories-Damon tells story after story of how he allowed his pain to transform him from the “monster” that he and those whom he loved the most called him.
  • Lead your rebellious teen out of addiction-Damon and his daughter are incredibly transparent about their struggles and her eventual triumph over addiction.
  • Beat the odds and have a fulfilling 2nd marriage-The majority of 2nd marriages end in divorce, particularly when children are involved. Damon shares how he and his wife, Debbie have beat these odds and enjoy a fulfilling marriage and a strong blended family.
  • Forgive those who have caused you the greatest pain-Damon’s childhood was filled with dysfunction and he harbored bitterness towards his parents. He shares how 4 simple words “Will you forgive me” transformed his life, his parent’s lives, and the lives of generations to come.


Damon Stoddard wrote his first book, Pain Drives Change, in 45 days. He built a thriving small groups ministry at his former church and led men’s ministry while working full-time at Microsoft. Damon won numerous awards for his work in hardware quality including Xbox and Surface.  He currently serves on the board of directors for one of the largest Christian junior football programs in Washington state. He and his wife Debbie live near Seattle and have four children.

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A riveting story of God's redemptive power.  I have used Damon's story to help hundreds of my clients." 5-star-rating

Dr. Jim A. Talley
Dr. Jim A. Talley, author Reconcilable Differences, Too Close Too Soon, and multiple other books

“Off the Charts!  Grand slam home run!  These are the phrases I use to explain Damon’s book, Pain Drives Change.  This riveting book captivates the reader at every page turn.  Damon is incredibly transparent with his personal experiences, the kind that leaves the reader wondering, ‘Is there any hope for this situation?’  Hope—that is exactly what this book is all about, hope for the hopeless. This book demonstrates, through God’s incredible, transforming grace and through Damon’s teachable spirit, that there truly is hope for the hopeless. This book should be in every Christian counseling office and in every prison cell in America!” 5-star-rating

Greg Von Tobel
Greg Von Tobel President and Founder of Prisoners for Christ Outreach Ministries

“I’m honored to endorse ‘Pain Drives Change’ because I was an eyewitness  to much of it. All of us have pain in our lives, but this book shows us how pain can propel us into our greatest victories in  life.“ 5-star-rating

Dr. Don Ross
Dr. Don Ross Dr. Don Ross, author Turnaround Pastor and Leader of Northwest Ministry Network

I have always loved Damon’s transparency, his passion for Jesus, and his ability to see things in life-changing ways other people just plain miss. In Pain Drives Change, Damon will show you, from his life experience, how to maximize it for God’s great purpose in your life.”5-star-rating

Boyd Pelley
Boyd Pelley Co-founder & President

An incredibly motivating story. There are few people one meet’s in their life who have the gift to listen more than they talk. With Damon, this trait is profound, genuine and authentic. He has been a ‘difference maker’ in my life and has provided me with constant and consistent motivation though his wisdom, his passion for life, his love of the Lord, and now his incredible story as told in his book Pain Drives Change! This book will certainly make you look both spiritually and conceptually at the relationships that are placed in your life’s journey, and how reflection can lead to redemption and ultimately internal and eternal peace. “ 5-star-rating

Bill Marsh
Bill Marsh Head Football Coach Cedar Park Christian Schools

A brilliant book! Damon opens up and tells the story of the difficult experiences he had growing up lost, damaged, and poor; he digs down to the pain and looks it in the eye. In so doing, he creates a clear path for the reader to do the same. Read on If you want to learn how to build a stable marriage relationship, blend a family, and lead your preteen out of drugs while being held in the faithful embrace of a loving God.” 5-star-rating

Sharon Hartnett
Sharon Hartnett Ph.D. Emerita Faculty in the School of Education at Seattle Pacific University

“This fast-paced book is a must-read for anyone in the paralyzing grip of emotional pain but not knowing where to turn or what to do. The practical guidance in its pages is testament to God’s permanent and positive changing power. Damon is a close personal friend and is living proof that pain drives change. The story continues!"5-star-rating

Dr. Bob Jordan Chairman, Prisoners For Christ Outreach Ministries

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Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance, and let endurance have its perfect result so that you will be perfect and complete lacking in nothing

—James 1:2-4

The first time I read this scripture, I thought, “Seriously, how can there be joy in the trials of life?” At this point in my life, I’d certainly had my share of trials, and as best I could remember, I hadn’t experienced joy in ANY of the trials. When I was a toddler Mom and Dad decided to get a divorce, but there wasn’t a lot of joy. When, as a young child, I watched them strap Mom into a straitjacket and take her away in an ambulance, there wasn’t a lot of joy. When I woke up in the middle of the night to screams and shouts, watching my mom in a drunken rage throw plates from the china cabinet at my stepdad—I don’t recall a lot of joy.

Some men came, bringing to him a paralyzed man, carried by four of them. Since they could not get him to Jesus because of the crowd, they made an opening in the roof above Jesus by digging through it and then lowered the mat the man was lying on. When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralyzed man, “Son, your sins are forgiven.”

Mark 2:3-5

Let me ask you some tough questions: If you had a crisis in your life and you urgently needed help, do you have anyone you could call and know, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that they would be there for you? If you found yourself in sin so shameful, do you have anyone that you feel safe enough with to share the details and know that you wouldn’t be judged? If you were severely depressed and you couldn’t get out of bed, do you have friends that would drop everything to encourage you and support you? If you found yourself homeless, do you have people that would open their home to you without question? Finally, the toughest question—do you have someone in your life that you have given the freedom to confront you at any time if they see you caught in sin?

I didn’t, and according to a study by Patrick Means from his book “Men’s Secret Wars” seventy-five percent of the men in church don’t either!

How did this happen? Reflecting back on my entire life, I’ve always felt alone. One of my most poignant memories as a child came when I was in kindergarten. My mom struggled with alcoholism and I witnessed a number of drunken events that no child should see. On this particular event, I awoke from sleep to yelling and the shrill sound of ceramic plates being broken. As I stumbled into the living room, I noticed the dishes from our china cabinet were in pieces. In a sheer rage, Mom was pulling out plates and throwing them furiously at her husband, shouting and calling him names that no child should hear.

Where there is no vision the people perish…

—Proverbs 29:18

Growing up, I never experienced a home with a “healthy” family. As I mentioned earlier, Mom and Dad divorced when I was only a few years old. Mom struggled with alcoholism, and Dad remarried and started a new family of his own. At the age of eight, my whole family went in different directions while Mom began her recovery from alcoholism. I personally entered a foster home with a married couple, we’ll call them the Jones’, but they certainly weren’t healthy.

My strongest memories of Mrs. Jones came one cool summer evening. Mrs. Jones was grossly overweight, and she told me her feet hurt from standing on them all day. She asked me to sit at her feet and rub lotion into her feet to make them feel better.

Who was I, an eight-year-old boy, to say no? As I was sitting on the floor with her feet propped up in the Lazy Boy chair, I began rubbing lotion into her feet. She was clearly enjoying this…as a foster mom, the state was paying her to watch me, and she was getting a foot massage to boot!

The doorbell rang, and she asked Mr. Jones to answer it. I could see the door from my position on the floor under her feet and glanced up to see who it was.

When the door opened, I was elated to see my mom! She had just gotten back to Wenatchee and she wanted to see me. I jumped up to give her a hug and tell her how much I missed her, but I wasn’t allowed to.

Then the LORD answered me and said, “Record the vision and inscribe it on tablets, That the one who reads it may run.”

—Habakkuk 2:2

They served me with the protection order on February 16, 1999. I was in shock when I received it, but I felt a strange sense of relief. I could no longer visit the house that I’d personally remodeled a few years before I was married. I could no longer see my wife which, ironically, meant that I was protected from her verbal assaults and attacks on my personal character. I could no longer put my daughter to bed in her own crib, so I wouldn’t feel the pain of leaving her at night.

The relief quickly turned to anger and pain. I could no longer call my wife on the phone when I needed encouragement or the hope that things would be all right. Strangely enough, we would randomly have very pleasant conversations that would give me brief glimpses of hope. Only a few weeks earlier, we had one of those glimpses. We shared a pleasant conversation on the phone and enjoyed each other’s company at church, followed by a pleasant meal as a family at a restaurant.

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I poured my heart and soul into this book. I chose to be raw and authentic about my dark and shameful past. My deceased mom (she died right after I finished the book), my dad, and my daughter also share the pain of their past.  We did it so that you would find hope and courage in the midst of your pain.

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