My interview with Carrie Abbott

A few days ago I was honored to be interviewed by Carrie Abbott at the KCIS radio station here in Seattle for her daily show, Relationship Insights.

What I appreciated most about Carrie was how she made me feel incredibly safe as I sat across from her in a very vulnerable state. As I opened up about the awful things that happened to me as a child she continually reminded her listeners about God’s grace and challenged everyone to face their pain head on.

In part 1 of our interview I talk about my childhood including watching my mom in a drunken rage. I share about her courageous decision to stop drinking, getting locked out of our basement apartment, and living in a park after we were locked out of our home. I share how she had to put us in foster homes so she could get healthy. And I share about the sexual abuse I experienced while in the foster home.

Listen to part 1 of my interview with Carrie Abbott

In part 2 of our interview I talk about how I responded to the pain and abandonment of my childhood. Carrie gently pulled out my most shameful past, a past that I wish I could change but can’t. I share about my anger and domestic violence, culminating in a separation from my first wife when my daughter, Monica, was a year and a half old.  The remainder of the interview talks about how God used my pain to transform me into the man I am today. We talk about Monica’s struggles and eventual victory over drug addiction. We talk about my wife, Debbie-the amazing woman God put into my life, and how we built our relationship on a foundation of trust beginning with sexual purity.

Listen to part 2 of my interview with Carrie Abbott

Thank you, Carrie for all you do and thank you for the opportunity!

Did you know I’ve partnered with LifeWire, the largest provider of comprehensive domestic violence services in the State of Washington?

I’ll donate $20 to LifeWire for every book you purchase on my website!


Thank You Microsoft….and Hello!

Thank You Microsoft and Hello!

After 5 incredible months off I’m back at Microsoft in a job that was created for me.  I am overwhelmed with how incredible the time off was and how blessed I am to be back at Microsoft. If you don’t have time to read the blog here are the highlights of my time off:

  • I enjoyed my family
  • I was head coach of my son’s junior football team (6-7 year-olds)
  • I joined a startup and quickly realized it wasn’t going to work
  • I wrote my first book-Pain Drives Change-in 45 days!
  • I learned a TON
  • I vacationed in Eastern Washington, the Oregon Coast and San Juan Islands
  • I got extreme clarity on my vision for the second half of my life
  • I once again realized how incredible Microsoft is as a company and was blessed to be re-hired after my first interview loop!

This blog is the “story behind the story”. Continue reading Thank You Microsoft….and Hello!

I just finished my final edits for my book “Pain Drives Change”


Editing is much harder than I ever imagined.  It took me longer to edit my book “Pain Drives Change” than it did to write it!

But it needed to be edited.  My first draft was written stream of consciousness.  My editor then took my stream of consciousness writing and cleaned it up significantly.  I then took his edits and modified some of the content.

It turns out that I didn’t know the full story when I wrote the original version-I learned more in the process of talking with my mom and dad while they each wrote their letters that are included in the book.

Continue reading I just finished my final edits for my book “Pain Drives Change”

Famous People with Bipolar Disorder

I’m doing some research on bipolar and I was shocked to find this group of famous people with bipolar disorder:


  • Beethoven
  • Winston Churchill
  • Carrie Fischer
  • Mel Gibson
  • Catherine Zeta-Jones
  • Marilyn Monroe
  • Jean-Claude Van Damme
  • Kurt Cobain
  • Frank Sinatra
  • Demi Lovato
  • Edgar Allen Poe
  • Richard Dreyfuss

Bipolar disorder (manic-depressive illness) is a neurobiological disorder that severely affects approximately 5.5 million Americans age 18 or older, or 2.6 percent of the adult population. An estimated 51% of individuals with this condition are untreated in any given year.

Bipolar doesn’t have to be debilitating and it doesn’t mean you’re crazy.  You can be wildly successful if you have bipolar, but you have to take full responsibility for treating your bipolar disorder. The list of famous people with bipolar disorder above clearly shows this.

In my book “Pain Drives Change” I share the wreckage bipolar had on my personal life and I share how I overcame it.


What I Learned From My Sleep Study-Part 1

I came across a very interesting infographic yesterday from Michael Hyatt that summarized the importance of sleep.

“If you are a high-achiever, this might be the single most important tip I could give you for improving your productivity.” Michael Hyatt

I was shocked to discover that the world’s top athletes get significantly more sleep than the average of 6 hours 44 minutes, Lebron James gets as much as 12 hours of sleep!

I’ve been tracking my sleep for nearly a year with my Microsoft Band. While not an apples to apples comparison with the data mentioned above (it was collected with a Zeo), it is still very intriguing. Continue reading What I Learned From My Sleep Study-Part 1

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